Abandoning Me: Choosing Me After a Lifetime of Choosing Everyone Else

What if the person you’ve been abandoning all along is yourself?

For years, you may have believed that the deepest hurt came from the people who didn’t choose you, understand you, or show up for you. But what happens when you begin to recognize all the ways you stopped showing up for yourself?

Abandoning Me: Choosing Me After a Lifetime of Choosing Everyone Else explores the quiet, often invisible ways we leave ourselves behind.

It happens when we say yes while everything inside us says no. When we silence our needs to keep the peace. When we mistake being needed for being loved. When we wait for someone else to change, choose us, or finally understand the pain we’ve carried.

And sometimes, it happens so gradually that we don’t even recognize we’re doing it.

Through honest reflection, relatable everyday experiences, and thought-provoking questions, Susan Laurent invites readers to examine the patterns they’ve learned, the roles they’ve accepted, and the choices that have kept them disconnected from themselves.

This isn’t a book about blaming the people who hurt us. It’s about recognizing what we began doing to ourselves in response.

Because choosing yourself doesn’t always mean leaving someone else.

Sometimes, it simply means deciding that you’re no longer willing to leave yourself.

You can learn to stay.